Ask each team member to briefly describe how their right neighbour felt during the iteration. Their neighbour confirms or corrects the guess. Once all participants shared their best guess about how their teammates felt, you get an idea of how connected they are, how communication is flowing in your team and if people are aware of the feelings expressed, in some way, by others.
Each participant tells a story about the last iteration that contains certain words Source:
Provide everyone with something to write down their story. Then introduce the shaping words, which influence the story to be written:
If the last iteration could have been better: You set a couple of shaping words, e.g. such as 'mad, sad, glad' or 'keep, drop, add'. Additionally they have to write their story in first person. This avoids blaming others.
If the last iteration was successful: The team can either choose their own set of words or you can provide random words to unleash the team's creativity.
Now each participant writes a story of no more than 100 words about last iteration. They have to use each shaping word at least once. Timebox this to 5-10 minutes. When everyone's finished, they read out their stories. Afterwards lead a discussion about common themes of the stories.
What would make the next iteration a perfect 10 out of 10? Source:
Prepare a flip chart with 2 columns, a slim one for 'Rating' and a wide one for 'Actions'. Everyone rates the last iteration on a scale from 1 to 10. Then they have to suggest what action(s) would make the next iteration a perfect 10.
Let team members appreciate each other and end positively Source:
Agile Retrospectives who took it from 'The Satir Model: Family Therapy and Beyond'
Start by giving a sincere appreciation of one of the participants. It can be anything they contributed: help to the team or you, a solved problem, ...Then invite others and wait for someone to work up the nerve. Close, when no one has talked for a minute.